I’ve been looking through various social media sites today, having a few laughs at the creative ways people solve problems.
And then, I would read the commentary from people that I don’t know. It was interesting but also concerning. Judging by that commentary, our world is made up of a high percentage of very vocal people who feel an obligation to pass their moral judgement on someone else. They can’t see any further than single snapshot of the story, but because of THEIR opinion, that person should be imprisoned, have their kids & pets taken away, and be restricted from interactions with others…at the least.
I’m not talking about photos of blatant cruelty, deviant behavior, etc. either. Some of it revolved around creative punishments for kids after some rule violation, which was never described. Having been a parent with kids who were creative about rule violation myself, I know that I had to be creative with finding appropriate punishments that reflected the rule violation. I wanted them to understand why the rule existed and why it was important to follow the rule too. It wasn’t about retribution usually (sibling wars sometimes do involve that though.) I was a mother who actually made her daughter wear a sign that stated “I lie to my mother” much to her chagrin.
Sometimes it was about outdoorsy stuff–fun things to do with kids while camping, having a bonfire, etc. Sometimes, ideas don’t work so well in practice as they do in concept. I’ve done a lot of things, ranging from cooking on hot rocks to cooking stuff on a stick. I’ve eaten food that had more sand in it than the average ocean beach too. I’ve tasted things that were rather unpleasant along the way. It’s part of the fun we share with our kids.
After due consideration, I have concluded the following.
Too many people spend too much time worrying about what other people are doing.
Too many people lack fun in their lives, and therefore must stamp out the element of fun in other people’s lives.
We have too many “holier than thou” people in the population.
We have way too many people who object to hearing laughter or seeing smiles.
Too many of those who are “experts” and free to make decisions about what we can or cannot do have no idea what we are doing or why we are doing it.
Too many people actually feel they have not only the RIGHT but the moral and legal obligation to control what other people do in the privacy of their own homes–and I don’t mean what we consider illegal normally, but how they talk, what they think, how they dress, what they eat, their manners, etc., stuff we consider the small individual choices of life.
It’s no wonder that as the mysterious “They” say, the nation (or world for that matter) is going to hell in a handbasket. Everybody is too busy worrying about everyone else’s thoughts and actions to take care of their own business! Surely these trolls (yes, they are trolls…people who habitually do this negative commentary are even called trolls, for crying out loud!) cannot be doing much for their own personal economy or relationships if they are devoting this amount of time to tell everyone else that they are doing it all wrong. Just like those parenting experts that have never had a child of their own, these trolling experts don’t seem to have a life of their own.
Not that the world or the masses are always right either. I agree…too many people deface historical or archeological artifacts, whether in vandalism or theft. Too many people do dumb things like chop down living trees to build a bonfire or break glass bottles at a beach. Other people destroy the environment with the foolish use of a fire or flare. There are people who do abuse their children, spouse, parents, or strangers for that matter. We have laws trying to protect society from acts of stupidity and viciousness. We have an appropriate process to deal with the people who are believed to have violated these rules of society too.
But just because I let my granddaughter pick a wallflower alongside a country road, that doesn’t mean I’m letting her burn down the forest. Yes, I know it is a wildflower and it won’t produce seed because she picked it. I also know that it was one of thousands in that area alone, and that the roadside will be mowed in a week or two. It’s not endangered, and I think she is smart enough to learn (over time, she is still a toddler) to respect and appreciate our natural world. Meanwhile, the child of the pompous troll who passes judgement on us as being among those who rape the environment will miss learning what beauty and joy is to be found in the natural world as s/he learns instead to judge others with no tempering by mercy or common sense.
If this is the direction society is headed, my apocalyptic prediction friends are apt to see it become a reality. These people are so focused on finding fault with others around them that they can never see the real threats to their world aren’t the people who laugh and do silly stuff, but rather those who work in secret, trying very hard to stay out of sight as they figure out how to make a few extra dollars. My conspiracy theorist friends can undoubtedly figure out how these trolls are actually secret government agents, designed to keep people irritated and aggravated, unable to focus on real issues while they deal with the dumb stuff the trolls come up with.
Like education. Genuine education that actually teaches kids critical thinking skills…now there is an idea that has been long forgotten as we deal with the “No child left behind” concept that ultimately was translated to “thou shalt only teach kids what they need to know to pass the federal tests” because that is going to determine whether or not you keep your job as a teacher. Critical thinking isn’t necessary, especially if you are raising the next crop of trolls and troll victims, now is it?
It’s no wonder we have the FDA pursuing small farmers who sell raw milk while we have organized crime moving drugs throughout the nation, or that towns across the country are more concerned with whether or not someone is growing vegetables in their front yard than they are with the number of people in town that don’t have access to fresh, healthy produce at all. Yes, I know that raw milk is a potential carrier of horrible disease and that was the original reasons for pasteurizing milk, but if people were educated to understand what the word pathogen meant, then they could make an intelligent decision about whether or not to use raw milk, couldn’t they? We’re far more likely to hear about a school teacher having inappropriate sexual relations with a student than we are to hear about all of the teachers who managed to help a child learn and maybe even make something of their lives via education. We’ll hear every small detail about some celebrity’s life, right down to whether or not she had on underwear when she was at location x than we will hear about that local activist who managed to put together a community farm that ensured that everyone in that town had fresh vegetables in season.
It’s time to quit worrying about what everyone else is doing and go do something. Have a glass of milk and eat a cookie, made with real butter and sugar, while sitting on an unmowed lawn and letting the sun warm your body. Wear some goofy outfit and go to Walmart, and while you are there, smile at people and ask them how they are doing and really listen for once. Go eat a hot dog with mustard and kraut while watching a baseball game and cheer for both sides. Pick a dandelion flower and hold it under your chin to see if you like butter. Have a lemonade stand and give the stuff away to people, just for the heck of it. Put a lawn chair in your front yard one evening and wave at everyone who drives by.
Just don’t be a bland piece of milk toast in a milky, bland world!